2.11.24 Huddle

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Opening Discussion

  • How is marriage viewed in our society?
    • What are some factors that make people view it that way?

Shortened Version

Read and Discuss

Proverbs 5:18; 18:22; 19:14

5:18 Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth.

18:22 A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

19:14 A house and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

  • What does Solomon say is good about marriage?
  • How were these views of the wives different from the cultural norms of that time period?
  • If you aren’t married, what are some ways you can find out if a man or woman is wise before marriage?
  • If you are married, what are you doing in your marriage to maintain the vows you committed to?

Read these verses from Proverbs 31

10 Who can find a wife of noble character? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. 12 She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life.

15 She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household and portions for her female servants. 16 She evaluates a field and buys it; she plants a vineyard with her earnings. 

20 Her hands reach out to the poor, and she extends her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed. 22 She makes her own bed coverings;

her clothing is fine linen and purple. 

26 Her mouth speaks wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue. 27 She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also praises her: 29 “Many women have done noble deeds, but you surpass them all!” 30 Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. 31 Give her the reward of her labor, and let her works praise her at the city gates.

  • What are some things that stick out to you about the description of a wife of noble character?
  • Why does the book of Proverbs end this way?
  • When people describe you, would they start by saying you were a person of noble character? Why or why not?

Discipleship Questions

  • Who do you know that has a good marriage? What can you do this week to gain wisdom from them? 
  • What is one thing you can do this week to become a person of noble character?
  • What can you do this week to show your spouse you appreciate them? How can you do this continually?
  • What is something the Lord is teaching you this week?

Extended Version

Read and Discuss

Proverbs 5:18; 18:22; 19:14

5:18 Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth.

18:22 A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

19:14 A house and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

  • What does Solomon say is good about marriage?
  • How were these views of the wives different from the cultural norms of that time period?
  • If you aren’t married, what are some ways you can find out if a man or woman is wise before marriage?
  • If you are married, what are you doing in your marriage to maintain the vows you committed to?
  • How does God view marriage?
  • What are some things you can do this week to enjoy your marriage and spouse more?

Read Proverbs 31:10-31

10 Who can find a wife of noble character? She is far more precious than jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will not lack anything good. 12 She rewards him with good, not evil, all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax and works with willing hands.14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from far away. 15 She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household and portions for her female servants. 16 She evaluates a field and buys it; she plants a vineyard with her earnings. 17  She draws on her strength and reveals that her arms are strong. 18 She sees that her profits are good, and her lamp never goes out at night. 19  She extends her hands to the spinning staff, and her hands hold the spindle. 20 Her hands reach out to the poor, and she extends her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid for her household when it snows, for all in her household are doubly clothed. 22 She makes her own bed coverings;

her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known at the city gates, where he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes and sells linen garments; she delivers belts to the merchants. 25 Strength and honor are her clothing, and she can laugh at the time to come. 26 Her mouth speaks wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue. 27 She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also praises her: 29 “Many women have done noble deeds, but you surpass them all!” 30 Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. 31 Give her the reward of her labor, and let her works praise her at the city gates.

  • Why does the book of Proverbs end this way?
  • What are some things that stick out to you about the description of a wife of noble character?
  • “Her mouth speaks wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue.” Who are some people you know like this?
    • How can you speak wisdom and loving instruction to those around you?
  • How can you use your words this week to encourage your spouse, kids, friends, co-workers?
    • What can you start doing to make this a habit?
  • When people describe you, would they start by saying you were a person of noble character? Why or why not?

Discipleship Questions

  • Who do you know that has a good marriage? What can you do this week to gain wisdom from them? 
  • What is one thing you can do this week to become a person of noble character?
  • What can you do this week to show your spouse you appreciate them? How can you do this continually?
  • What is something the Lord is teaching you this week?

Memorize it!

Proverbs 31:26 Her mouth speaks wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue.

Prayer TACOS

Thanksgiving- Thank the Lord for creating marriage

Adoration- Worship the Lord for wanting to have an intimate relationship with us

Confess the times you’ve not been a person of noble character

Others- Pray for someone who is struggling in their marriage. Ask the Lord to give you an opportunity to talk to them this week.

Self- Ask the Lord to help you in your marriage. If you aren’t married, ask the Lord to help you be content in Him.