2.4.24 Huddle
This week’s huddle may be a difficult, and highly personal topic for some people. Please respect people’s privacy, and if people do share stories, please don’t use names.
Opening Discussion
- What are some boundaries you’ve set up in your relationships?
- What are some boundaries you might need to set up?
Shortened Version
Read and Discuss
Read Proverbs 7:6-9
6 At the window of my house I looked through my lattice. 7 I saw among the inexperienced, I noticed among the youths, a young man lacking sense. 8 Crossing the street near her corner, he strolled down the road to her house 9 at twilight, in the evening, in the dark of the night.
- Why did the young man lack sense?
- What could he have done differently?
- What are some ways people head towards unfaithfulness and maybe aren’t aware of it?
- What are some ways you can set guardrails in your relationships?
Read Proverbs 2:16; 5:3-4; 7:5
2:16 It will rescue you from a forbidden woman, from a wayward woman with her flattering talk…
5:3-4 Though the lips of the forbidden woman drip honey and her words are smoother than oil, 4 in the end she’s as bitter as wormwood and as sharp as a double-edged sword.
7:5 She will keep you from a forbidden woman, a wayward woman with her flattering talk.
- How does Solomon describe the speech of the adulteress?
- How do words lead people astray?
- Why is what we say so important in our relationships?
- What are some ways you can encourage and speak words of affirmation to your spouse, kids, family, and friends this week?
Read Proverbs 2:18-19; 6:32-33
2:18 …for her house sinks down to death and her ways to the land of the departed spirits.19 None return who go to her; none reach the paths of life.
6:32 The one who commits adultery lacks sense; whoever does so destroys himself. 33 He will get a beating and dishonor, and his disgrace will never be removed.
- What are some possible consequences of adultery?
- Why do you think infidelity is on the increase in our society?
- Why does cheating hurt so much?
- How is it different from other sins?
Discipleship Questions
- What are healthy boundaries you can set to stay on the wise path in your relationships?
- Who are one or two other people that can ask you the tough questions about your relationships?
- What would it take to set up a regularly scheduled time with them to help hold you accountable?
Extended Edition
Read and Discuss
Read Proverbs 7:6-9
6 At the window of my house I looked through my lattice. 7 I saw among the inexperienced, I noticed among the youths, a young man lacking sense. 8 Crossing the street near her corner, he strolled down the road to her house 9 at twilight, in the evening, in the dark of the night.
- Why did the young man lack sense?
- What could he have done differently?
- What are some ways people head towards unfaithfulness and maybe aren’t aware of it?
- What are some ways you can set guardrails in your relationships?
- Is there anyone you see currently heading in an unhealthy direction with their relationships? What can you say to them this week to warn them?
Read Proverbs 2:16; 5:3-4; 6:23-24; 7:5
2:16 It will rescue you from a forbidden woman, from a wayward woman with her flattering talk…
5:3-4 Though the lips of the forbidden woman drip honey and her words are smoother than oil, 4 in the end she’s as bitter as wormwood and as sharp as a double-edged sword.
6:23-24 For a command is a lamp, teaching is a light, and corrective discipline is the way to life. 24 They will protect you from an evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a wayward woman.
7:5 She will keep you from a forbidden woman, a wayward woman with her flattering talk.
- How does Solomon describe the speech of the adulteress?
- How do words lead people astray?
- Why is what we say so important in our relationships?
- How are love and respect important to marital faithfulness?
- What are some ways you can encourage and speak words of affirmation to your spouse, kids, family, and friends this week?
Read Proverbs 2:18-19; 5:4-5; 6:32-33; 7:22-27
2:18 …for her house sinks down to death and her ways to the land of the departed spirits.19 None return who go to her; none reach the paths of life.
5:4 …but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.
6:32 The one who commits adultery lacks sense; whoever does so destroys himself. 33 He will get a beating and dishonor, and his disgrace will never be removed.
7:22 He follows her impulsively like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer bounding toward a trap 23 until an arrow pierces its liver, like a bird darting into a snare—he doesn’t know it will cost him his life. 24 Now, sons, listen to me, and pay attention to the words from my mouth. 25 Don’t let your heart turn aside to her ways; don’t stray onto her paths. 26 For she has brought many down to death; her victims are countless. 27 Her house is the road to Sheol, descending to the chambers of death.
- What does Solomon say is in store for those who commit adultery?
- What are some possible consequences of adultery?
- Why might some people think it will be different for them and their infidelity will turn out okay?
- Why do you think infidelity is on the increase in our society?
- Why does cheating hurt so much?
- What are some ways people have been hurt by this?
- How is sexual sin different from other sins?
Discipleship Questions
- What are healthy boundaries you can set to stay on the wise path in your relationships?
- Who are one or two other people that can ask you the tough questions about your relationships?
- What would it take to set up a regularly scheduled time with them to help hold you accountable?
Memorize it!
Proverbs 6:32 The one who commits adultery lacks sense; whoever does so destroys himself.
Prayer TACOS
Thanksgiving- Thank the Lord for giving us warnings of what might happen should we not stay on His path of wisdom for our marriage and relationships
Adoration- Worship the Lord for His faithfulness to us even when we stray
Confess the times you’ve made unwise choices in your relationships
Others- Pray for someone you know who is heading down unhealthy paths in their relationships. Ask the Lord for an opportunity, and boldness to speak the truth in love to them.
Self- Ask the Lord to show you any way you may be straying onto an unwise path. Ask Him to put people in your life to help you when you don’t see the danger coming your way.